Is there anything useful in this Brene Brown self-help book or is it all just mental gymnastics? But what’s wrong with mental gymnastics anyway? I wrote down a few notes.<\/p>\n
Let go of what other people think…<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Having kids with special needs (mental, physical, etc.) will definitely force you to do this. Raising them requires different techniques that will look “wrong” to outsiders and they WILL in turn judge you as a bad parent. Oh well.<\/p>\n
Be self-aware of your symptoms and triggers. Write them down.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
This is probably some of the best advice I found in the book. Common sense self-awareness help. You have got to write this stuff down because your memory will fail you in the moment.<\/p>\n
Ordinary courage vs. heroics (not the same thing)
\nOrdinary courage makes everyone around us a little braver and the world better.<\/p>\nThere is no giving without receiving.<\/p>\n
The less we talk about shame, the more control it has over our lives.
\nName the shame. Talk about it.<\/p>\nThere is no selective numbing.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
If you numb one thing, you numb everything. (With drugs, booze, binding TV, whatever)<\/p>\n
Deliberate lists of crap to do every day (Like the “AEIOUY” list in one of the chapters) drive my crazy. Stupid acrostics? Check. Impossible to-do list? Check.<\/p>\n
Take something off your list and add “take a nap”.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Much better advice. Something I’ve only learned as I near 40.<\/p>\n
Joyful people “practice” gratitude.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Daily prayers or journaling gratitude. Execution over intention.<\/p>\n
Ordinary does not equal boring. Boring does NOT equal meaningless.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
This is one lesson I feel I HAVE learned (more of less) over the last couple decades. A lot of my work really is ordinary and boring. But I’m certain it’s not meaningless. I wrestled with this a lot when I was in my young twenties though.<\/p>\n
There is no such thing as creative and non-creative people. There are only people who use their creativity and people who don’t. As long as we’re creating, we are cultivating meaning.<\/p>\n
The opposite of play is not work.
\nThe opposite of play is depression.<\/p>\nI’m dying to freak out here! Do I have enough information to freak out! Will freaking out help? THe answer is always no.<\/p>\n
Over-functioners try to rescue everyone and get in people’s business.<\/p>\n
Not using our gifts leads to distress.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Don’t constrain “meaning” to a short list of acceptable things (like being rich and famous).<\/p>\n
Near the end of the book, this classic self-help quote is unfurled:<\/p>\n
\u201cDon\u2019t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.\u201d – Howard Thurman<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
I’ve seen this quote lots of times. Sometimes it’s misattributed (like it is in Wild at Heart). I like it, but I also realize it’s a bit Disney-follow-your-heart. I like this guy’s analysis<\/a> of it.<\/p>\n
So overall, not a bad book, but very lightweight by design. I guess it reassured me that my own psychological hangups are not particularly unique or uncommon, which is good. The way forward is long and plodding though.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Is there anything useful in this Brene Brown self-help book or is it all just mental gymnastics? But what’s wrong with mental gymnastics anyway? I wrote down a few notes. Let go of what other people think… Having kids with special needs (mental, physical, etc.) will definitely force you to do this. Raising them requires … <\/p>\n